Children who experience Childhood Trauma do not “just get over it”

violence hurts

Humans are relatively adaptable beings which is why we are thriving and not dying out like other species. Horrendous disasters such as the Philippines typhoon, the Boxing Day Tsunami, the nuclear disaster in Japan, the major wars of our time, and horrific famines see great suffering, but these events also inspires survival through adaptation. It turns out we possess a strong survival mechanism in our brains directly linked to our bodies, fight, flight, freeze, flop and friend (fffff).

traumaIn fact, the survival part of our brain, which is primitive yet effective, is the first to develop in utero starting at around 7 weeks. It regulates our breathing, digestive system, heart rate and temperature, along with the ‘fffff’ system which operates to preserve our life.

If we have to dodge a falling object, jump out of the path of a speeding car, keep very still to avoid being seen, run for…

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Why I WILL Call My Kids Gifted. An Op Ed on an Op Ed.

Some pertinent thoughts on why you should be honest with your children if they are gifted.

Curious Kels

To understand the context for my post, you may wish to read the article I’m voicing a reply to:

http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/parenting-and-families/why-i-wont-call-my-daughter-gifted-20141117-11ocwd.html

I disagree, and I’m about to rant long windedly to explain exactly why that is. Enjoy 🙂

My first question:

Why are the two mutually exclusive?

In the article the writer says that she will not call her daughter gifted, because she wants her to learn to successfully fail. How on earth did these two things end up apart as the only option? They are not polar opposites, they do not sit on parallel lines, forever unable to come together. Why can’t you do both?

This is my experience, and opinion. As both a gifted adult, and the parent of gifted children aged 15, 13 and 3. My eldest attends an academically selective public school that he chose to try out for and that he adores. My 13 year old…

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